Keep Your Anxiety from Harming Your Kids
Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness, worry or unease about the future or an event. It is a normal part of life that affects us all. But the regular stresses we experience every day can pile up and cause acute anxiety and anxiety disorders. These affect not only us as they change our behavior, but can also affect those around us, particularly children. Here are some effective tools to help you manage stress and keep your children from being negatively affected by your reactions to stress.
Seek Help to Manage Your Anxiety: Brigit Katz of the Child Mind Institute states that children take cues from the adults in their lives, so it is important to model the best behavior you can. If you suffer from anxiety, the first order of business is to seek professional help. There are many skills that can be learned to help you manage your anxiety; in most cases, there is no need for medication. You can not only use these skills yourself, you can also teach these skills to your children.
Talk Appropriately About Your Anxiety: When you do lose your temper because of anxiety, in an age appropriate way, you can share your struggle with anxiety with your children. “I’m sorry to have been frustrated this morning. Mommy was feeling stressed. How can we improve our morning routine so that we are all working together?” This kind of discussion will help your children to understand that your anxiety is not their fault. Children tend to blame themselves for the issues their parents are having. They need to be told and reassured that they are not the cause of your or the family’s difficulties.
Make Time to Meditate: Many studies have shown that meditation changes both the structure and function of the brain, making the brain healthier in a variety of ways. If done regularly, meditation can make a tremendous impact on feelings of anxiety. And a bonus – your kids can meditate with you and learn to deal with stress in a healthy way at an early age.